What is Love? "Love" is certainly very difficult to pin down and define. Rather then trying to identify love itself, it is probably easier to identify how it changes people’s decision and behavior. Like most people will say, people are always blinded with love. Is it true? Do people tend to act differently when they are in love? Do they always do stupid things for the partner and just want them to be happy although they know that it’s not the right act? Well i have went through several relationships and being relly in love. But until now, i still can’t really find the true answer of being in love. I believe even me have been blinded with love before. Doing things for the other party withouth thinking about the consequences, but just to make the person happy and giving them what they wanted. But is this the right way being in love? When love comes, does it really blinded our mine we just do whatever without thinking straight? I really do not understand about it anymore, i have been in love and being out from love. But that doesn’t mean that i am a loser. Cause i always believe that all these experience helps me to grow and to become a better person.
Anyways, what is the true meaning of Love?
I came through this article, and this is what is stated:
True love started with both people being physically attracted in some way to the other. It can be their eyes, hair, legs, what ever it is there must be an attraction. then there must be personality trait attraction, their sense of humor, quiteness, outgoing, so on and so forth. next is an intellectual attraction, then comes the emotional attachement and finally a spirtual likeness.
Well i always have my own kind of definition of love. For me, true love is having the freedom on both sides to express themselves, to evolve, without fear of losing the relationship. Sometimes just having the freedom to do nothing for true love is as natural as the waters running off of a mountian. Sometimes the river overflows and sometimes the river is low and even dries up. Just because the river bed is dry for a period of time, this does not mean that it is dead. Just that there is no water coming down from the mountain. This always should be explored and resolved. In order to be in love, we always have to consider different kind of componenets of love and situation and take it as a another stage in life. If the driver really dries up and there aren’t any water coming down anymore, i believe that they will always be another river waiting for us to explore. Love is not a simple thing, it take a lot of trust, commitment, communication and of course care. If one of the component is missing, what is the meaning of love anymore?
As such, some people believes that if two people are convinced that they want to spend the rest of their lives together, they are in love. Clearly this is not the essence of love, but it’s a decent proxy for the result in being ‘ in love’. Cause there are a lot of things to consider to be in love. It’s not easy to spend the rest of your live with someone if you miss out the other essence in love.
How may people who have known each other for just a few weeks know that they want to spend the rest of their lives together? Yes this is a really common situation now. But it is probably still a relatively small proportion of all relationships that have lasted for a few months. What makes me think that? Well just say that i fell comfortable asserting that the majority of people who are together for 2 - 3 months are may no be together 2- 3 years later. This probably holds true, even among people who claim at 2- 3 months to be in love. If they didn’t stick together, could it really be said that both people were truly " in love"?
I would also feel comfortable asserting that people who get married after knowing each other for just a few months are a very small proportion of all marriages. Talk is cheap. When it comes time to put more than words behind their sentiment, few people in 3 month old relationships do it. Falling in love is of course something that precedes marriage, not something that happens at the same time. And there are many reasons why people could really be in love. but not ready to get married. For example, dissaproval from families, feeling like getting married would force them to ‘grow up’.
So my questions here is that, do people really are in love after just being together for a just a few months? Does love wear off after a few years? Do people still can be in love after commited into marriage? How can we keep and still commit to the other when the love is no longer there? How can people make sure that the love will not drift off after years? What can we do to keep us in love forever?